The Boy and The Girl thing….

So , it all started again!

The girl and a boy thing. The usual Indian family drama. No, I am not talking about love affair or about the social or legal rights of either of the gender. Certainly that’s the hot topic with the movie “PINK” release. But I am talking about getting blessed with the baby Girl or a Boy! Recently experiencing motherhood, the only fear during delivery one has that everything should go normal. Baby should come out fine and if possible, I can get spared with the C-section painful aftermaths. However, once the journey gets completed the real drama begins. Drama of the lifetime starts with one announcement... “It’s a Boy!”  Me and my husband both were kinda expecting a girl, reason being our bundle of joy has been gifted to us on the first day of Navratras and that too coming 19 days earlier, we somehow expect that mother goddess has decided to visit us in person and bless us. And when the doctor announced our bundle of joy to be a boy, it was bit of a surprise for both of us. Though, I had hoped for one. Reason being my tom boyish lifestyle and attitude throughout my life have always made me comfortable around boys and I always feared, how will I be able to bring up my daughter to be an elegant lady when I myself have never witnessed the “E” of elegance in me ever! And the bully I am, I didn’t want my husband getting a team (the father-daughter duo stuff) and I be left all alone. Being the mean soul I am, I always take care of my demands and requirement first. So, here I had my mix of emotions and gratitude for the lord for making everything a cake walk and gifting us with a healthy baby. But then, as I was talking about “The Drama”, it started within 30 minutes in the room I was shifted too with flood of calls flowing all around and relatives boasting about their pre-assumptions on the boy coming to the “Khandaan”. And we thanked everybody out of respect and decency for it was really hard to make them understand that it really didn’t matter to us, only thing we were happy about was getting our real toy for lifetime for he has completed our relation and elevated us to relation of responsible mom and dad from the carefree husband and wife we were. Soon, the drama got spread from the hospital room to our society and home for except the few educated lot , we got our congratulations more on being becoming parent of a boy rather than on just becoming parent. Gifts to be given to relatives, maids, other lots have certainly got bit expensive on this particular fact. Certainly we can see certain expenditure going up and Diwali around the corner, there is no escape to any! But then, still pondering over all the events and thinking about our way of life I cannot help stop thinking that as an Indian , we are still so tied to this boy and girl thing. I fail to understand that why as a boy mom I have an option for bearing second child, wherein girl mom must go for second one. Why as a girl mom demands for gift is optional but as a boy mom it has become mandatory to oblige all. Why still in minds of so many still a girl child in family is acceptance but boy becomes joy. Really thinking when as a nation and society will we get over this? As for now, both I and Husband are taking our congratulations for we really are rejoicing becoming parent more than becoming boy parent, for none of us can take the credit for the later fact! ;) Lots of Love! Anji