Have you ever revisited your childhood and felt- How it was like receiving the package of shiny paper on the birthdays? I used to wait entire year for that one day. Being a millennial, and 80’s born we didn’t had the privilege of all the fancy days that started in the later years. I remember the cake arriving in the evening with dad. Guest turning up one by one with packets along and a special surprise from Mummy , the most awaited present for the year. Always!
Those shiny packets brings in the delight in eyes and smiles on face today too. Sometimes in form of Valentine’s gift. Sometimes, those surprises on dinners and then the final one, That bright shining Rock on the finger announcing the end of surprises and beginning of responsible and a miser life. Miser, well that’s what most of Indian household can be related with. The monthly budget of the house, usually keeps the surprises at bay. The Man and Woman of the house gets so busy with their daily living that they stop living the small happiness.
That’s where it is important to get back that shining package in form of small Gratitude. For it is very important to acknowledge and appreciate each other every day for all small things we do for each other. Be it be the meal which is cooked and served hot despite the moods and modes of the day, The laundry which is always available clean and pressed in the wardrobe, for we do not have slightest idea, how it always get in there and is always available. For the clean and dusted sofas , the washroom always cleaned and free from dirt. We never appreciate the small efforts of each other which is put in to make house a better place to live each and every day. Share it with a small kiss, small hug, a silent smile, and surprise sweets.
I remember an old friend, lively and full of life and pampered by her parents. Moves into her new home and starts the life with the expectation of being the own master of the choices and life. One thing that got missed in all that was there was no one to appreciate the old milestones of her life which had been the key part of growing up for her. Nobody treated her on the days when she was appreciated to have managed an awesome meal to the family gathering. She missed her days of report card results of PTM, for they had been the moments of celebration. Nobody ever appreciated the perfect upkeep of her home which she managed through her sheer hard work and dedication to keep each corner alive like her. Soon her passion melted to frustration and she became the Normal-Wife of an Indian Family. Nobody wanted to be part of her complaints and started looking for solace otherwise. One day, she just left!
Learning from her I realized, how important it is to be appreciated. To be made Important. To feel that you are loved. And how do you show that?
Of course! That come with that packet of shiny paper. It has to be visible, Physical, wrapped with love and gifted with surprise. Often, we just assume that it is not important to repeat everything in words for repeating it again and again either make it less important or make the person too proud. But my friends, IT IS IMPORTANT. It is important to repeat it every day for how important it is for you both to have each other. How much you love each other and appreciate each thing which is done with love and warmth. And sometimes, it has to be in form of that small present wrapped in surprise. For surprises always brings back that smile and spark of childhood and remind us of that same love we got from our parents. Unconditional and Priceless!
Love.
Anji
